Dressed For Success: 5 Ideas To Encourage Independent Dressing At Home

This week we are excited to host Kim of At Kid Level. She has great tips for you on encouraging independent dressing at home. Add this to the Helping Hands Toolbox and you have one independent kid on your hands!

It’s a pretty well-known fact that independence is a cornerstone in Montessori education. Dr. Montessori even said it herself: “Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed.” For a lot of parents, this idea can be challenging to put into practice at home. What exactly does a young child feel he can succeed at?

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When parents ask me this question, dressing and undressing are some of the first suggestions I offer. Allowing and encouraging children to dress themselves boosts their self-perception, strengthens gross and fine motor control, and even helps with spatial reasoning … and, with consistency and practice, it can make busy mornings go much more smoothly! With the new school year just around the corner, here are a few tips to get you and your children started:

independent dressing at home

Clothing options for the child who is just starting to get dressed independently: 1. Boden 2. Gap  3. Pediped 4. Softstar Shoes 5. Burt’s Bees Baby 6. See Kai Run 7. TOMS

5 Tips for Independent Dressing at Home

  1. Offer limited choices. There are so many different styles of children’s clothing; some may not be suitable for the current season or day. Offer a few appropriate options for tops, bottoms, and shoes for your child to choose from. If you are concerned about colors and patterns clashing, stick to neutrals or mix-and-match styles.
  2. Minimize frustration. For a child who is just starting independent dressing at home, put out clothes that are easy to put on. Loose tee shirts and elastic waist pants are great options. Save buttons, zippers, and snaps until your child is ready for the challenge. This is also a great time to introduce Montessori dressing frames!
  3. Break down the task. Think about all the steps it takes for you to put on a pair of pants. Keep this in mind when guiding your child to do the same. At first, she may need you to help her balance, scrunch up a pant leg, or start a zipper.
  4. Avoid correcting. If your child works for 15 minutes at putting on her shirt and it’s backward, let it go. Her sense of pride is worth too much to point out what she did wrong! She may even realize her own mistake and fix it independently. If safety is an issue (for example, your child put his shoes on the wrong feet and could trip), then it’s OK to gently point it out.
  5. Allow plenty of time. When children are just learning a new skill, they need lots of practice before they can do it efficiently. If you’re running behind one morning, expecting your child to get dressed quickly may not be realistic. Keep this in mind when planning your Montessori at home schedule.

Preparing the Environmentindependent dressing at home

Here is an example of a dressing area for a young preschooler. Everything is laid out and ready for the child, much like any prepared environment. The chair offers a steady place to sit down and put on pants, a shirt, socks, and shoes. The mirror, brush, and cloth add another level of self-care awareness. The grey basket provides a place for dirty laundry.

Teaching a child to be self-sufficient can be a daunting task! There certainly is more upfront preparation, but it is absolutely worth the outcome of a confident, competent, independent child!

Kim Edwards is a Montessori teacher and mom to her one-year-old son, Wilson. For six years, she lived in New York City, where she taught in a Montessori preschool, completed her AMS 3-6 credential, trained other Montessori teachers, and finished her Master’s degree in Early Childhood Education (it was a busy six years!). Now, through At Kid Level, Kim spends her time working with families to bring Montessori ideas and practices into their homes. She also leads a variety of Montessori-inspired enrichment classes for children and their caregivers in Boston, Massachusetts.Follow her on Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook.

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  1. Emily

    I was wondering if you have any tips on this for getting kids invested in getting dressed. Basically, my daughter can dress and undress herself and is happy to do it when she’s interested in it, but it’s not something she feels a lot of pride about–I mean, she’s proud enough of herself for being able to, but once she’s able to do something, it’s no longer a source or real pride or motivation for her because she’s on to the next thing, so we can’t get her on board that way. She doesn’t care about clothes, so I try to have her pick from 2 or 3 options at the store when we’re buying clothes and when we’re picking out her clothes in the morning, but it’s all I can do to get her to give me an answer most of the time, so I don’t like to push it. Choosing her clothes is also not a motivator, and I don’t want the choice to become a burden. Like a lot of kids her age, she doesn’t often want to put on clothes, so sometimes it can be a real struggle–even when we make sure she gets plenty of sleep and has plenty of time to get ready. She’ll hem and haw and fuss so much that then we do get short on time, but I would be wrestling the clothes on her no matter how much time she did or didn’t have. Clothes seem to be an outlet for absolutely every frustration, from the fact that, say, she wants today to be swim class day rather than a school day, to grief over the fact that she didn’t sleep with her favorite pair of shoes the night before, or the fact that our dog died last year. I don’t want to fight with her like this every morning, and in just about every other situation, we’ve managed to develop techniques that avoid power struggles and are positive and effective, but this one really has me stumped. Thanks for any insight you can give.
    – Emily

  2. Steele Honda

    I like that you said that when helping your kid pick out their outfit you should offer a few appropriate options for tops, bottoms, and shoes for your child to choose from. I am trying to help my daughter feel more independent so I am trying to help her choose her own outfits in the morning. I think that giving her different clothes options would help her still have a choice without it ending up with her wearing shoes that don’t match at all or something like that.

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